Sunday, August 11, 2013

Third Party Source

A smart phone arose with advancements in technology.  Really?  Wouldn’t the intelligence of an electronic be in the hands of the operator?  Anyways, time came for my slide out to hit the road and get upgraded.  I decided on a smart phone ‘because everyone else had one’.  This small piece of equipment challenged my intelligence.  The adjective ‘smart’ began to make sense now.  Funny thing. . .the brain behind the phone is female (just sayin’).  Her name is Siri.  She knows everything, if not, she directs you to various sources to find an answer.  I have come to like this woman; for she helps me navigate the phone features, directs routes and dials numbers.    

I found texting difficult.  A screen, smaller than an index card, displays the alphabet and area to type the conversation.  My club fingers often hit unwanted letters or auto correct chooses an undesired word.  In comes that smart woman Siri to help!  I tap a small microphone, speak and she transcribes.  After doing so, I must edit her work.  She processes at least one word wrong with each conversation, changing the whole idea.  I often think I would be better off to take an hour and type my own words or wash my hands of the whole text and call the person.  I experience a love/hate relationship with Siri.  Miscommunication causes confusion and undesired emotions.

She will also answer questions efficiently.  Often times, my family and I play games with Siri by asking silly questions just to hear her response.  She kicks back with an answer, but not always seeing the humor in our game.  Only one way she processes information – literally.  Being an electronic device, humor or sarcasm cannot be detected.  Confusion sets in, followed by ignoring.  Our conversation ends when she refuses to process any more of our questions.  Her emotions get in the way of seeking out what we truly mean in our conversation (remember, she is female).  The game ends with both sides left in confusion and no desire to speak to one another.  Miscommunication causes frustration and undesired emotions. 

Relate this one to life.  Nowadays, visiting a friend, calling on the phone, writing a letter or meeting for lunch (not for work) rarely occur.  We replace such events with emails, texts, skyping or conversing through social media.  Transcription of words shared among cyber/techno world lay in the minds of the recipient.  Using a third party such as Siri, computer, another person or a microphone attached to the device increases risk for miscommunication.  Like the game ‘telephone’ played years ago, the message may transcribe into undesired words.  Without meeting in person to explain or edit the words, the recipient could become confused and frustrated.  A simple statement written with love may be construed as apathetic.  If tension already exists or feelings are on one’s sleeve, words sent via cyber world process completely different than intended.  Emotions get in the way of seeking out true meaning of conversations.  All results with both confused, frustrated and consumed with undesired emotions. 

The cycle can be eliminated, corrected and prevented.  How?  Let us turn to the One true Source for a solution.  The One Who processes perfectly, knows our hearts, requires no editing and listens intently. . .

Let your conversation be always full of grace, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how to answer everyone.” (Colossians 4:4-6)

“Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.” (Ephesians 4:29)

“But now you must also rid yourselves of all such things as these: anger, rage, malice, slander, and filthy language from your lips.”  (Colossians 3:8)

Pray before communicating.  May your words be guided by God.  The risk for miscommunication decreases when you place God in the middle.  Our words pack meaning as Christians.  We set the example of what Jesus would say in every situation.  Carefully choose your words and the tone in which you speak.  Let Him be the only third party source used!  Look closely. . .did you see the word conversation?  This implies oral communication.  The best way to connect and discuss with one another is in person.  Don’t let an important discussion occur in cyber/techno world. 

Wholesome talk produces healing.  Anger cannot exist in the presence of Truth and words spoken in His name.  Process your own emotions before conveying them in conversation with another.  Think about how the other feels and choose words to reach an agreement on a situation.  Edit before speaking and assure that the words spoken clearly state what you feel.  Get rid of cyber/techno conversations.  Save them for simple, to the point statements (“be home in five”, “meet you in ten”, etc.).  Don’t let Siri control your words.  Don’t leave processing up to the recipient.  Converse in person or by telephone, allowing the recipient to hear or see your heart and process your words the way you intend.


And as always. . .

Keep praying harder than the devil can work.

Sheree Craig

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